Swap-bot Time: September 23, 2017 11:45 pm


Date Joined: September 22, 2011
Last Online: September 23, 2017
Birthday: March 17
Country: United States
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About Me

Who is this, this person called Phe? Well, for starters, I am not easily quantified, at least, not when I'm trying. This is just a small glimpse of the things that make up the person I am.

  • I am divorced, a non-custodial parent to a great kid. I live alone and have no pets. I do have a boyfriend though. Sometimes I think he counts, even if he doesn't live with me on a full-time basis.

  • I am a veteran. I am a combat veteran. I served this country for 16.5 years in uniform, in peacetime and in war, and continue to do so as a civilian. Please note that this doesn't automatically make me a flag wavin', gun totin', beer n 'Murica lovin' 'Murican. It makes me someone who believes in serving a greater good, that being the people of my country. I sometimes feel that foreigners really don't know the first thing about the average American and especially American veterans. No, most of us do not, in fact, shit bald eagles in the morning and shoot our guns all day whilst stuffing our faces with oversized deep fried butter bars and wiping them with American flags. Trust me. And most of us are just as afraid of a Trump presidency as you are. Hold us...we're scared.

  • I have a low tolerance for BS and become impatient when faced with it but am otherwise quite open and have friends from all walks of life.

  • Tank Girl is my spirit guide and I'm not referring to Lori Petty's 1990's reboot either. In every unit I've ever been assigned or attached to, someone inevitably began calling me Tank Girl at some point, without ever having been told of either a) my love of the comic or b) the fact that this was my nickname in my last unit. That always vaguely worried me, but who am I to argue with fate?

  • On that note, in the last few years I've more often been referred to as "Our own Abby Sciuto" (from NCIS). This is a compliment. I take it as such.

  • I was a biology major and an anthropology minor degree seeker in college although I never graduated. My specific interest was in emerging infectious disease and how cultural norms and globalization spread catastrophic diseases within, and outside, of their endemic regions. I even assisted with the development of a Forensics 400 course. But now, if I go back, it will be to pursue a degree in Creative Writing. Why? Because I have a career and I'd rather chase a dream. I still love science though.

  • I am very sweary in real life although when I write letters, I temper that depending on who I am writing to.

  • I am a dirt bike rider and street bike lover.

  • I am a city baby born into the former grit and roughshod glory that (was) is Boston. In spite of the gentrification that has done so much and yet destroyed so much, I have vowed to never leave home for greener pastures, at least not on US soil, again. This city is in my blood. That is not to say, however, that I wouldn't become an expat in a New York second given the opportunity to do so. I am no longer comfortable in the US, especially as time goes on and this nation becomes more divided. In light of my personal service to this nation, that thought saddens me a little.

  • While Boston may run in my veins, my heart and soul is born out of the cold waters of the north atlantic shores I live on. In any season, in any weather, you are likely to find me on the beach throwing away the bad, the heartrending, the cruel; the emotional detritus accumulated by the simple act of living hard and living fully.

  • I am not a Christian. I was baptized Catholic and although I find some comfort in the unchanging rhythm of mass when I have to be there for weddings, baptisms, or funerals, I am not a practicing Catholic either. I am probably closer to pagan in my beliefs, but not neo-pagan/Wiccan by any stretch (don't get me started on that). A solitary Not-Witch-Witch perhaps? That said, if you want to pray for me, pray. I don't mind. I respect your adherence to your faith provided that it doesn't interfere with my personal or constitutional or human rights. I only ask that you keep your religious rhetoric to those who would appreciate it and not push it on me in any form or fashion.

  • I am a writer who battles writer's block on a daily basis.

  • I am an unabashed smoker although I don't smoke in my home.

  • I am a musical magpie as I grow older. When I was young, it was nothing but old punk (77 punk), British Oi!, early hardcore, goth/industrial, ska/skacore, rockabilly/psychobilly, and 80's New Wave. I still love all of these but today, I'm more likely to be found listening to EDM, deep house, and trance or Balkan/Russian pop or even gypsy punk. That doesn't mean I pass up the opportunity to head out to a good show when I can though!

  • Art deco, the roaring 20's, turn of the century America and Victorian England fascinate me. But then, so does Marine Biology and the nature of emerging infectious disease.

  • I love to travel and have covered over 30 US states (whether I wanted to or not in many cases) as well as several countries overseas.

I suppose that in the end, when you factor in these small pieces of me with the rest that make up my whole, I consider myself to be a half-assed renaissance woman. That seems about right.

On Swapping and Rating...

My Swaps

Unless I don't have enough postage or a package simply can't be posted in the blue bin, most of my swaps at this point are being walked to the blue bin on the corner and dropped as soon as they've been completed and partners are assigned. When I return from posting, I mark the swap sent. That could be at midnight, at 0300, or in the middle of the day.

I will not mark sent until a swap has physically been turned over to the USPS - whether at the counter or into the bin.

This means that the postmark may not reflect the date the item was mailed. My bin's pick up time is 13:00 (1pm) Monday through Friday. Please bear that in mind if you're someone who is meticulous about checking postmarks.

Rating and Non-Raters

I have spent far too much time in the last year wondering and worrying about whether or not partners have received my swaps - even e-swaps! This is because, after ample time has passed, I have not received a PM or a rating. A rating, to me, is both a way to acknowledge receipt of a swap, provide commentary (and even constructive criticism which I welcome), and to say, "Hey! Thank you!". For this reason, I always rate upon receipt.

My Swapping Philosophy

First and foremost, if you do not receive a swap from me, let me know and I will re-send. I take pictures of almost everything I send and post them to my Flickr account (which also means no peeking if you're waiting for something from me).

Secondly, as noted above, I always rate. It's my way of saying "Thank you for making my day with your creation!", of letting you know that it's been received, of generally acknowledging you. With that in mind, I do tend to lump swap flakers and non-raters in the same category. It's not a very nice category. Trust me.

Finally, the rules of swapping on this site are quite clear. If I receive nothing from you but excuses or worse, nothing at all, you will get a 1. If I receive something late with no communication or if it doesn't meet the swap description, you will get a 3. I am a patient lass but even I have my limits. I can only work with you if you tell me about the house that fell on your sister. I'm not actually psychic you know!

And of course, if I receive a swap from you on time that meets the swap requirements, it's a 5.

So that's that. Simple and straightforward

Creative Endeavors

I love to write. I love to paint in the abstract. I love to draw in the abstract. And now, I've been trying to draw and sketch more realism. I may not always succeed, but I'm learning and I'm learning to love it too. I've really grown away from the more "crafting" swaps and trying ALL OF THE THINGS and have settled into writing, hand-drawn or painted swaps (especially ATCs and postcards), and smaller collage swaps. So with that in mind...

  • While I get that writing isn't a craft, it is certainly an art. Regardless of the topic, a writer who can convey clear meaning, emotion, place, time...using nothing but words...he or she is a true artist. With that in mind, I write daily for my job. For myself, I write letters. I write in journals. I write poetry (and won the Glasshouse Shelter poetry contest last year - a contest for Homeless Veterans. This resulted in my publication and a few readings, plus an interview with MassPoetry.org). I write snippets of things that come to my mind that perhaps one day I'll be able to expand into a story. I just...write.

  • ATCs. I love to create these and try to challenge myself, having moved away from collage and more into hand drawing, painting, and mono-printing.

  • Handmade postcards. I've done quite a few of these now and I always fret when they're posted naked, but so far, only one appears to have been lost and one has been mangled. I suppose, in the grand scheme of things, that's not so bad. When doing them, I tend to stick more to collage work although here again, I've been doing more mono-printing.

  • Mono-Printing! I recently got a Gelli Plate. How I lived without this is beyond me.

  • Abstract painting. I use mostly acrylics, though I've discovered the joys of Derwent Art Bars for smaller pages in my art journal - they can be used wet or dry. But when painting canvas, I use acrylics.

  • Collage art.

  • Pen Pal Flipbooks. I've just recently discovered these and have fallen in love with them.

  • Pocket Letters. OK, so I really, really resisted this trend for a while. Then I received one as a RAK and after seeing and holding one in my actual hands, I ran down to the comic book shop to grab a stack of 9-pocket pages and basically...I've become obsessed. The RAK was from @OrigamiGrace so I blame her for my complete 180 and newfound obsession. :D

  • Photography, most especially architectural and industrial decay. Boston is the perfect place for wandering and photographing. I post all of those pictures to my Instagram.

  • Although not considered by many to be a “craft” (although I do think of it as an art!), I love to cook from scratch and no recipe survives contact with me. I'll use them typically as guides for cooking times, but I almost always improve it (in my eyes anyway) or just create from scratch. Some of my family and friends' favorites are dishes I just sort of...made up.

Themes, Likes, & Dislikes

Note: Please do not construe this as a "Wish List" as it is not. It is simply a guide for swapping partners for profile-based swaps. I do not auto-heart just because you put something from this list into a completely un-related swap package.

Postcards: When sending PCs, whether handmade or store bought, I prefer that they be mailed naked and written on unless they have elements that may be damaged or torn off in the postal handling process. If the swap description gives you the option of mailing in an envie and you're really nervous that mailing naked would result in something disastrous, just let me know. I'm fine with that (having had handmade PCs get mangled myself, I understand that fear).

Themes that I love to Explore in My Creative Endeavors (and also receive):

  • The Atomic Age

  • Cold War and Propaganda

  • Asymmetrical warfare (chemical, biological, radiological, nuclear)

  • The Roaring '20s

  • Modern design

  • Dark Victoriana

  • Nautical

  • Sea creatures and the undersea world (please note that this is NOT nautical - sea/oceanic life and nautical are very different, even if they both pertain to the ocean)

  • Anatomy/skeletons

  • Seascapes

  • The Autumn (my favorite season)

  • Science - especially biology and chemistry


  • Scarves - especially infinity scarves. I have skulls, leopard print, blacks and greys...and am always looking for more!

  • Tank Girl. Of course.

  • Gas masks! Images, clothing depicting them, jewelry...

  • Absolutely anything related to the ocean -especially Arctic and Atlantic seas.

  • Letters from similar minded pen pals or people who love to sit and write pages. I love to receive in-depth, thoughtful letters that are less a Q&A session and more like a wonderful conversation over good beer or whisky or wine in a cozy pub.

  • Lettersets! Kawaii: San-x Sentimental Circus, Q-Lia New Sound, San-x MonoBoo, Sanrio Kuromi...anything Kawaii Noir really. Also anything vintage/dark Victorian!

  • Steampunk image branded t-shirts and crafting supplies

  • 1950's cocktail and martini kitsch

  • New Orleans through the early/mid 1900's (especially Storyville)

  • Pre-Christian history and mythology (particularly Persian, southwest Asian, and European)

  • Arthurian legend

  • Celtic history, mythology, and symbolism

  • Grimms Brothers fairytales - the real Grimm with the blood and the true consequences, based on even older tales. Not this watered down nonsense of today

  • Local legends, lore, and ghost tales

Colors... If you're ever considering something in colors, I wear mostly blacks and greys and prefer cool tones in general (blue, purple, deep greens, silver - think the colors of the seas).

Scents Clean scents only please. I do have a tart burner so feel free to send those or any sized candle or oil you choose, in any variation you find of the following scents:

  • Ocean/Surf/Driftwood/Beach

  • Rain

Tea/Coffee/Hot Chocolate... I am not a huge tea drinker however, I prefer strong or fruity brews if you're going to send tea as part of a swap. When it comes to coffee and chocolate drinks, the darker/stronger, the better. I drink my coffee very strong and prefer deep, rich, dark chocolates as well.

Makeup/Bath Products... Like my home scents, I prefer clean (ocean-y) scents. I love handmade soaps and use almost exclusively Lush bath and skin care products. But for makeup, I'm a MAC and Urban Decay girl. I don't use anything else.

Please Do Not Send (Dislikes)...

  • Planner items. I have moved from my Kikki-K planner to a Bullet Journal and I don't use stickers, flags, clips, etc. anymore.

  • Displays of Wal-Mart Patriotism, the US Flag, military memorabilia/kitsch. So, I think I need to explain this. Nothing aggravates me more than Wal-Mart Patriotism. I served under my nation's flag. I don't need or want to plaster and display it everywhere. I am not, as I stated above, a WOOHOO MURCA type person. And as for military kitsch and memorabilia, the only things I've kept are things that have been given to me as part of units and missions - or exchanges between friends/service members. Challenge coins, commander's coins, other nation's military kit (my most prized is the RAF beret I was given by someone I served with in the middle east), unit patches - that's all super meaningful...when exchanged as part of something greater. Being a veteran is a big part of what makes me, well, me...but don't mistake that pride in service for some bullsh*t Lee Greenwood "patriotic" crap please.

  • Fabric/fat quarters/yarn etc. I do not sew, quilt, or otherwise do textile arts or crafts at all so I have zero use for these things.

  • Blank recipe cards - I have a book I've created for all of my recipes and don't use these, however, I have quite a few now as I've gotten several in swaps and tags. I'll send them on, but I'd prefer to not receive any more.

  • Drink packets such as MIO or powdered/liquid beverage additives, decaf coffee

  • Hand sanitizer/anti-bacterial soaps liquid/foam/gels of any kind.

  • Drug store brand makeup of any kind, or nail polish. I am very picky about my makeup brands and I don't do my own manicures/pedicures.

  • Coupons

  • Lavender, cinnamon, apple, baked good, pine, or other "homey" scented anything. Please. The scent of these candles and oils makes me sick.

  • Anything that can be considered Proselytizing - religious OR lifestyle

  • Children's stickers, reward stickers, super hero stickers, etc.

  • Soppy images of animals in any form

  • Country crafting/country cutesy items/papers/stickers

  • Form letters

  • Decos/FBs/LBs - I no longer swap any of these

  • Disney or Diddl stationery or stickers or anything really. I just really cannot stand these designs. Sorry. :(

On Pen Pals and Letter Writing

I love letter writing. I'm sure I've said that once or twice already. I prefer long, handwritten letters and all but one of my pen pals is from overseas. I am not currently actively seeking new pals however, if after reading this profile you'd like to write to see if we click, I'm open to a PM. Here are some things to know:

  • I take a while (up to several months depending on my work and volunteerism schedule) to write back, but I do write back.

  • I treat pen paling as growing a friendship and some of my most trusted confidants and closest friends are pen pals. Thus, I am not a collector of pals. If you are, please do not send me a PM.

  • A long letter to me is 10+ pages (1 sheet of letterset, both sides written on = 2 pages) at the shortest. Mine average between 12 - 16 pages however, with some pals (a growing number as we grow closer), even a large pack of letterset isn't enough and I now write my letters to them in small notebooks.

  • I do have a few shorter letter pals whose friendship I cherish.

So, in short, if you think we'd be a good match, feel free to PM. : )



Seraglio, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn, The Tea Rose, Discworld Series, Dreamland, The 20th Wife, Pharaoh, Auntie Mame, Around the World With Auntie Mame, Storyville, Gangs of New York, Haroun & the Sea of Stories, All Creatures Great and Small, Paddywhacked, Arabian Nights & Days, Stiff, Outlaws Inc.

...Let's face it. I just love to read and I do it every night in bed, no matter how late it is. When the day is done (and that includes all of the stuff I like doing on top of everything else...), reading is a must.


Amelie, La Femme Nikita (the French original), Leon the Professional, Snatch!, Lock, Stock, and Two Smoking Barrels, Ronin, From Hell, Eraserhead, Repo Man, The Bourne Trilogy (I don't count the 4th one), Rocknrolla, Lord of War, Contraband, Kingsman: The Secret Service, and just about every John Waters film ever made


The Blacklist, NCIS, Scrubs, and documentaries - especially history and nature

On Extras

Please, Please, Please... do not send me random extras! Too often since I've returned to swapping here have I received rather subpar swaps with the flat rate limit of random scraps and "extras" enclosed. These have almost all uniformly ended up in the bin and I've been left feeling as though the enclosures were to draw attention away from the swap itself and still beg for a heart.

Conversely, I don't send random extras unless it's something I have that your profile clearly states you'd love to receive. And if I send it, I don't expect a heart. I just want to make you a little extra happy. I want my swap to stand on it's own merit, not anything else I may choose to send, if I choose to send.

And to be clear, - if "going above and beyond and sending extras to make a partner happy" is part of a swap description that I sign up for, then obviously, I am prepared to send and receive things above and beyond the minimum - although I don't consider that "sending extras" nor do I view that as random and not related to the swap itself.

So please...spend time on your creation. Try something new. Enclose a note telling me about your technique. But don't send me random scraps/ephemera/destash stickers or other such "extras".

Thank you. xo

Amazing Swappers

I've added this section because I think it's as important to recognize the good on this site as it is to warn about potentially bad swappers in our profile.

  • @OrigamiGrace for being just the most amazing host and group founder, and making up not just for flaked swaps, but for swaps that barely met the requirement to get a 5. Truly she goes above and beyond.

  • @CariahCreates sent me an amazing RAK which literally brought a tear to my eye. (12 Jan 16)

  • @Paige1900 lovingly angeled the Sea Creatures ATC Week #3 swap after my partner sent me (twice) things that were not even close to being ATCs.

Flakers, Non-Raters, Others

I have contacted everyone listed here on more than one occasion prior to naming them.

Swap Flakers

Tag Flakers



Poftoffel rated for Someone told me... #2 on Sep 19, 2017
Comment: An absolutely fascinating and touching piece of oral history! It's voices like your Opa's that make history come real....I loved reading this and wish there was more. What stories could he have told! And isn't it fascinating that you can learn languages as children and then forget them as adults? My best friend moved to the US when we were fourteen, her younger sister and brother now can't speak Dutch if they wanted to, even though they were raised with it! This is such a fascinating piece, thank you so much for sharing this with me <3
Comment: Wow! This is awesome! :) This is the first PL I've gotten, and I love it! Your letter, too - I feel like I know you. :) This was a great swap, thanks so much for hosting, and for sending such an awesome PL & letter. :)
Comment: I am currently drinking my tea out of a Jellystone Campground mug from when my family rented a cabin. While I only had the one kiddo, my much younger sister and my kiddo come up with similar conversations. If you go again, try renting a golf cart. Cruising around a campground in a golf cart is way more fun than it sounds. Thanks so much for swapping!
Ree87 rated for CPG Armchair Traveler - Global on Sep 7, 2017
Comment: Thank you so much! I loved the magnet. Sounds like a great vacation. I'd love to visit New Orleans for real some day 🙂
USAFwife rated for Collected journal round 1 on Sep 5, 2017
Comment: Wow, you really did full enteries! Thats great :) cant wait to read through again. :) and didnt realize you were in MA! Haha- small world & all. :)
Comment: I LOVE the colors you chose for the background...your "scrunching" the page worked out better than it did for me lol! I am very happy this is my first Art Journal page, a great way to start a collection! I love looking at the way you add details and the techniques you use. How did you get the quote on the paint?! This makes me want to paint more.... thank you for another amazing swap! <3
Comment: Thanks for the great ATCs!!
jukejan rated for People are People on Aug 24, 2017
Comment: Your well written story gripped me from the start and showed how self determination can move us forward even as hope waivers. I really enjoyed it!
lynnerfb rated for All Hallows Eve, #2 ATC on Aug 17, 2017
Comment: I love Sugar Skulls I'll send you one of the ones I embroider on felt. Thank you.
yukapinku rated for ISS: Scavenger Hunt Swap on Aug 14, 2017
Comment: Hi!! Thank you soo much for the beautifull hunt! I really love the post it and the glitter. EVerything in fact XD I'm really happy. I loved to be your partner Happy swapping <3
Okispice rated for NH: Questions & Answers on Jul 29, 2017
Comment: Great letter, great bio! Thanks for your service and so glad to hear you are on track with your life. Keep on smiling!
Comment: Thanks for the beautiful Haiku and ATC. Sometimes the blue herons come and call for fish at our pond! We discourage that with a sensor that squirts a jet of water toward them.
Nserviam rated for My hectic life on Jul 28, 2017
Comment: Thanks for letting me know about the mix up with electronic/snail mail. And thanks for sharing your writing worries with me. It's nice to see I'm not alone in having too many commitments and not making time for writing. Also, yay bullet journals!
LadyWoods rated for From a magazine on Jul 26, 2017
Comment: Thank you!
January rated for FFF-Summer Flipbook USA on Jul 17, 2017
Comment: What a great flip book! I love the glitter filled bag - like water :) - and I'm not usually a glitter person, so nice! (BTW, I've been in Somerville many times! Great town - my son went to college there!)
aspens rated for ISS: Hometown Photo Swap June 2017 on Jul 10, 2017
Comment: Did get it!! It was hiding under some bills, ugh! I'm sorry! Anyway, I love the presentation! Thanks for showing me around Boston, I really would like to visit :) (especially after hearing about "booze cruises," lol!
njstauter rated for (Electronic) Word Magick Survey on Jul 10, 2017
Comment: Wise words from a wise woman. Many thanks for the clarity and transparency. It was an honor to read these responses.
Poftoffel rated for Think different on Jul 9, 2017
Comment: Oooh I love this! In the Marvel world there is Damage Control, who clean up after the superheroes. I like how they're showing this in the movies too, the consequences of all this fighting! I had to laugh at the word "fracas" and the reaction it got from the Commander. I also like how being an alien, Calderon doesn't understand the frailty of human buildings and lives! Poor guy, thinking he's doing a good deed. You inspired me to write my own piece! Coming your way soon <3 <3 <3
pernie123 rated for Think different on Jul 5, 2017
Comment: Your story took an imaginative turn.
Comment: Thank you(*^_^*)(≧▽≦)

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thefruid on Sep 8, 2017:

I'm so super thrilled (and relieved) to hear you love honey lol! I really, REALLY, wanted to share something edible from where I live and my husband was like, "What if she doesn't even like honey?" And I was like, "What? Not like honey??? Blasphemy!" LOL. Thank you for the rating fellow honey lover! I'm happy to hear you enjoyed the swap!

WaywardDreamer3 on Aug 26, 2017:

Loved the halloween items you sent via the Tag Something thread! Thank you so much!

VivaLaDiane on Aug 9, 2017:

Bigger love on you sweetie!! xoxo♥♥

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Bhindblueeyes on May 4, 2017:

Because I loved this .gif so much, I just have to leave it for all of the HFF members :)

Bhindblueeyes on Mar 17, 2017:


mgallardo68 on Mar 6, 2017:

Sent you a request!! Hope you're doing fine. Hugs!

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