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CTMHStamper Gives for Grief Help

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CTMHStamper Gives for Grief Help
Swap Coordinator:CookieMomster78 (contact)
Swap categories: Challenges  Craft Supplies  Random Items 
Number of people in swap:7
Type:Type 1: Electronic
Rating requirement:4.99 (unrated swappers allowed)
Last day to signup/drop:January 7, 2020
Date items must be sent by:January 14, 2020
Number of swap partners:1

Help! How do YOU help someone grieve?

A loved one just lost their best friend suddenly, my bestie’s dad is in hospice, and I just found out my Grandma passed away on New Years day. Can I get a little help from my friends who’ve gone thru this before?

Comment below with one or two “healthy” suggestions of WHAT you were able to do that helped another get thru grief, feel supported, or help yourself grieve.

I will be the only one sending physical mail.

You’ll simply rate a five if your partner left a useful comment.

My assigned partner will receive two new acrylic stamp sets. I have a stack left from my old CTMH days as a consultant, so they will be random, but I will read your profile to try and send something you can appreciate. Since this issue is close to MY heart, I thought it nice to share stamps with those willing to extend their (digital) hand in advice.

Thank you in advance for the help, y’all.


ablev92 01/ 3/2020 #

I am so sorry for your friends loss & current struggles. It is never an easy time in our lives when we lose someone close to us. The first thing I would suggest is truly just being there in anyway that you can. Even if its just simply having a girls night in being silly and just letting her vent or cry or having a fun girls day out. Someone being there and showing that you truly care in a time of need is one of the most uplifting things you can give to someone.

The second thing I would suggest is a simple rak of kindness to your friend or perhaps another one of her family members. Even if it's a little happy mail or a surpise home cooked meal. Hope this help!

Hyshu 01/ 4/2020 #

I am sorry for your loss. I pray for everyone. God bless.

My suggestion is just to talk about the situation with anyone who will listen. Talk with your friend's about their loss. Talk about your loss. Remember the good times. A funny story. A favorite holiday time. Keep the loved one alive with your love and memories.

Secondly, it is important to give yourself time to grieve. Everyone grieves at different rates and ways. You need to respect that in your own grief and in others. There is no set time frame for grieving and it is something that needs to be done no matter how painful.

My prayers for all.

PeliKat 01/ 4/2020 #

For those I know who have lost loved ones, I share favorite memories of the person and let them know that they will not be forgotten. I also tell them that if they need someone to talk to about the loved one, I will be happy to talk with them. So many people seem to be afraid that talking about the person who has passed will make the grieving person even sadder, when in reality, it helps to keep there memory alive after the chaos of the funeral and burial. I always ask if it makes them sad to talk about the person and no one has ever said they don't want to talk about them. I personally like it when someone shares a story about my family members who have passed. It's nice to know that they are remembered.

For my own grief, I've found that journaling about the person who died is a good way to deal with the sadness. I think that, again, it's a way to keep their memory alive, and a way to kind of leave something of them behind that others can read and know that this person was special. I've buried three sisters and my Mom and Dad, and I also have little 'memorials' to them. For instance, I plant some of my Mom's favorite flowers in my yard. I also put up a memorial tree for Christmas each year, with ornaments that represent interests of each of them. It helps me feel like I'm 'doing something for THEM'...

Harineke 01/ 4/2020 #

I’m sorry for your loss. I’ve already read very good tips.

If you live close, you could bring a meal or invite them for dinner

It depends all on what kind of person it is who is grieving. For some talking and listening helps. Sometimes it helps making a sort of small altar with a photo and personal things and burning candles. It might help to go to the place where you were together the last time or when you had a good time or what he/ she loved to do or see. It can be nice to make a pillow of some clothes that the one used to wear of a nice piece of art.

Just let the one know it’s good to follow the heart, how silly it may be.

CookieMomster78 01/ 4/2020 #

Thank you all for the GREAT advice thus far! I am going to contact my sister about us grandkids dedicating a plaque or planting a tree for our grandma. This has been so hard for us since we’re “just” grandkids and the executor of the will is not having any kind of service. Definitely opened my eyes up to the importance of a service for the ones left behind...also, since I am not in the same state as my loved ones, I am going to put together a care package to share some love from afar. I love the idea of a journal and also making a pillow. ALL so helpful! Thanks a million! I appreciate the prayers too @Hyshu

KaliOya 01/ 4/2020 #

My thoughts are with you and your loved ones during this time of mourning. My healing be timely and complete.

If you live close I would suggest cooking a meal and if cooking is not your thing order and pay for takeout. If you do not live close you can still order and pay for takeout. Just call a restaurant that is local for your loved one. I also highly recommend that you send a meal a little later in the mourning process. Most people will send food directly after a family member passes. Which means getting lots of food all at once. Which can go to waste. But a week or two after the passing the family is still in need of support but most people have stopped offering help, but help is still needed. If you live close go over and clean house, wash dishes, run errands for them. If you do not live close you could hire a much aid for the day for them. Take a nice warm bubble bath to relax and maybe put on some relaxing music while you soak. Take a walk in a park or place you enjoy.

CookieMomster78 01/ 6/2020 #

I GENUINELY appreciate each of you for sharing these great ideas! Just one day remains until my swap deadline, and I have decided thank all five of you in some small way. I also made the decision to get a tiny tattoo of a 4-leaf clover that reminds me my Grandma is forever with me in spirit. I am thinking about putting it on the inside of my left ring finger, since it’s historically symbolized the direct route to ones heart. Any thoughts on an alternative location?

ablev92 01/ 7/2020 #

You're so sweet!! I think that sounds like an amazing placement ! The only thing I'd suggest is putting it slightly higher then the ring band so it doesnt get covered up, unless you want it to be

Cindymt 01/ 8/2020 #

Hey, so I lost my grandpa over summer and two friends recently and I am still dealing with it though they happened on Halloween and early December. One piece of advice I can give you is not to bottle up your emotions. You can cry during times like these. Though it will not bring them back, you may feel a bit better. Also do not be afraid to reach out to loved ones. Another piece of advice I have is to know your loved one would not want you to be sad forever. They know you need your time to grieve but they would want you to be happy and to move on with life. It is more important to remember the many years they lived and not the one day they died. I hope this helped :)

CookieMomster78 01/ 8/2020 #

Thank you ☺️ everyone of you has been so kind and helpful! 🥰

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