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Light a Candle: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awarenes

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Light a Candle: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awarenes
Swap Coordinator:sleepy1 (contact)
Swap categories: Photography  Newbie  Email 
Number of people in swap:22
Type:Type 1: Electronic
Last day to signup/drop:October 14, 2011
Date items must be sent by:October 16, 2011
Number of swap partners:3

October 15th is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness day.

Earlier this year my infant son passed away. Every year thousands of babies die across the world.

This swap is simple, light a candle on October 15th at 7pm for one hour, wherever you are, for pregnancy and infant loss awareness. Then take a photo and email it to your partners.

You can add a note, a poem, a quote, a personal story, whatever you feel is relevant to the swap.

Please, let's remember those babies who will never get to grow up, never get to laugh, never get to see the world. And the parents who will never know their little ones, who miss them every moment of every day.

Anyone can join, but please don't flake on this. I will angel.


NurseKelly 10/10/2011 #

I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my daughter in June of 2010.

DerpyShy 10/11/2011 #

This was a great swap idea not 100% sure how to swap for something like this. But I too have wnt through it this year I will do it :D

sleepy1 10/11/2011 #

thanks guys. I'm sorry for your losses too. It's heartbreaking, no one should have to lose a child :(

asma if you have any problems with the swap, just let me know. I'll help.

PAStryloVER 10/12/2011 #

sorry to all those whom have lost a loving child. It breaks my heart to see children, leave us! I lost a child to a miscarriage that alone was a terrible feeling.

PeNeLoPe 10/12/2011 #

first time i ever joined an email swap because it IS something worth while!! unless someone has been there, there is NO way for others to understand (i dont mean that in a horrible way)...

our oldest son is a near miss SIDS.. meaning that we were fortunate that my husband was in the army and trained to resuscitate while we were waiting for the ambulance.

than on may 3rd last year i had a miscarriage @ 20 wks.. at home, i was on my own... to this day i cannot forget and wonder.. it is however a totally different kind of loss to having loved and cared for a child and then losing them.

i am so sorry for all your losses and i will be lighting the candle in honour of ALL our angel babies.

thank you for this most thoughtful swap!

sleepy1 10/12/2011 #

Penelope. how awful to go through that alone, but how wonderful and amazing that your son was saved. I never got to bring my son home, he was in special care for his whole life, but oh I miss him so much. Thank you everyone for signing up. All those candles lit for our little angles across the world, our angels will be looking down at our lights and know that they are loved and remembered. xx

marcsgrl 10/12/2011 #

This swap is an incredible idea. After trying for a baby for well over a year my husband and I were blessed with a pregnancy. Unfortunately at 6 weeks in I miscarried. I know this isn't far along and most of you had it worse than I did but it was still my baby and it still died. My heart is with all of you who have lost infants as well as babies in the womb. It is such a heartbreaking experience. I will definitely be lighting a candle for all our angel babies.

sleepy1 10/12/2011 #

marcgrl I just wanted to say that no matter when you lose a baby, it's still a baby, it still hurts to much. Whether it's 6 weeks, 16 weeks, 26 weeks or after birth, xx

marcsgrl 10/12/2011 #

Thanks @sleepy1 I appreciate it.

PeNeLoPe 10/13/2011 #

@marcgrl i totally agree with sleepy1 it makes me sooooo mad when ppl dismiss an "early miscarriage" and come out with "oh it wasnt even a baby yet, you can try again blablabla" it makes me want to smack them over the head! you were a MUM for those weeks, you carried a life that ended too soon... what does it matter wether it was for 1 day or 1 year or 10 years?? just because i was further along when our loss happened, ppl tend to give me more sympathy and i hate that. ANY miscarriage at ANY stage is devestating. Will keep your angel baby in my prayers on the 15th, along with all our others.

JessicaH2H 10/13/2011 #

My prayers go out to everyone in this swap. I am joining on behalf of my angel baby. In August 2010, I miscarried at 10 weeks. I am also going to light a candle for a dear friend of mine, Jami. She lost a baby 2 years ago during a stillbirth. His name was Keller. We will never forget our babies, but we have both continued on and are both expecting again!

lefroggy 10/13/2011 #

@marcsgrl HUGS - a baby is a baby no matter how far along you were, precious memories will always start from the first time you know about them, and those memories will always stay with you for a lifetime. I lost my son on December 07' I love him and we miss him so much, my sister in law lost her daughter a few days ago, we love and will remember her always.. and my sister miscarried an angel baby at two months, about 3 years ago i will light my candles in there memory. and the memory of all those beautiful babies.

dana1214 10/15/2011 #

I missed the sign up. I to lost my baby in fen 2009 he was 1 month old. I died when he died. I will light my candle today. Thank you for hosting this!!

sleepy1 10/15/2011 #

@dana1214 If you like we can swap together? I'll message you!

PeNeLoPe 10/17/2011 #

i am actually sitting here and im STUNNED to see that we have FLAKERS on this simple but important swap!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how on earth can that happen???? please, if your partner has not sent to you, let me know and i will share my photo with you... i kept ALL the Mums and children in this swap in my heart prayers that night, so the candles were not just for my three assigned partners.

sleepy1 10/17/2011 #

Yes, I will also angel if anyone hasn't got their pictures. It hurts me a lot that anyone would flake on such an important swap like this.

StarMouse 10/17/2011 #

This swap was very moving for me. I think it's possible that writing what happened may have triggered some emotional distress for some of the participants, which might explain why some folks flaked. My story is over 40 years old, and it was intense for me. It was also really good to know I'm not alone in this. We need to be more open about this, so women experiencing it now can know they aren't alone.

Corazon 10/17/2011 #

I got my swap in, albeit a few days late. Hugs to everyone that has suffered the loss that so many don't understand....

PeNeLoPe 10/18/2011 #

@Starmouse .. i can see what you are trying to say, but surely a simple "im sorry i just cannot do this" would have been better than nothing at all? i didnt go into detail about my m/c because yes, it does open a can of worms best left firmly shut, but the main idea was to light the candle not to share your story (that was optional)

PeNeLoPe 10/18/2011 #

ok well having looked a bit more deeply...

crayonmum has announced the safe arrival of baby Connor.. although the circumstances did make me swallow hard, so if you check out her profile be prepared!!! ill happily angel her swap and if you would leave her an appropriate rating id be even more grateful to you :)

and apparently there is something going on with momski's husband.. prayers for him on her profile.

if the partners would like my photos instead, just pm me your email addies :)

weeviljing 10/20/2011 #

I'm sorry I failed to join this swap. I, too, lost my beautiful son, Kai, in June 2010. But I participated in the Wave of Light with other bereaved mothers and remembered our lost child and other babies who have gone too soon. I'm so sorry for all your loss. Love and light to all of you, moms of little angels.

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