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Original Member
Last Online: June 19, 2022
Birthday: March 2, 1972
Country: United States

About Me

Average white male, 50, postal worker, happily divorced in 2018 after a 20-year train-wreck of a marriage (that was my shot - never again), living in the Portland, Oregon (USA) area. I'm honest, sincere, wistful, nostalgic, defeated, loyal, melancholy, bitter, sad, semi passive-aggressive, pessimistic, regretful ... I am many things, often all at once, with varying percentages.

YES, the glass is half-EMPTY.

The ONLY reason I'm even bothering to remain on this planet with the rest of you fine people is because of my wonderful 21-year-old daughter (the true love of my life). Otherwise, I would've "deleted my account" a long time ago ...

And, not that it should matter, but I'll just come right out and say it - I'm an atheist. I won’t bore you to tears with a full de-conversion story about how I broke free from the yoke of childhood indoctrination except to say that yes, my research was thorough and sincere and that any pleas to any gods - at the absolute lowest points of my life - were met with deafening silence. Ask me why I don't believe in your particular god, and I'll ask you why you don't believe in "Amon Ra," the Egyptian Sun God ... our answers will be the same.

But, even if you're really religious, I'm sure we'll get along fine - I try hard to be respectful of other people's religious beliefs ... as long as they keep their religion out of schools and legislation.

If you’ll admit it, you and I are insignificant - just two of BILLIONS of humans on this planet, living the only life we KNOW we have. To me, religion in general ends up being so divisive - but all we really need to do is treat people well and try to live a good life without harming others, and that's all that matters, regardless of whether or not you think that there's something that happens "after" this ...

Would I ever attend a high school reunion? HELL NO ... I hope I never see any one of those people ever again in my life. High school (or Junior high, for that matter) was not a fun time - the last thing I need to try to do is pointlessly try to "reminisce" with people who either wouldn’t remember or wouldn’t care who I am ...

...and no, I don't have a "blog" or maintain a "Facebook Profile." In fact, the profile you are now reading is probably the lengthiest piece of information there is about me anywhere, let alone on the internet. And I'm no "Luddite" but I LIKE that.

There are a few blogs that are interesting, I'm sure, but for the most part, people just waste their time on them for no good reason other than self-validation, like, "Look, world ... I exist!". Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook ... I don't participate. My life is pretty 2-dimensional, and I would actually be amazed if anyone wanted to read about MY daily exploits.

(not to "dis" anyone who actually does maintain a blog, or if you're active on social media or whatever ... I'm just sayin' ... in MY case)

Favorite Music

Music is my life ... it's helped me through many a hard time, and I can't imagine life without it. If YOU can, I'd rather not know you at all.

What music do I like? Oh, I could go onandonandon ... Tame Impala, Failure, Jon Brion, Sleigh Bells, Public Enemy, Neko Case, Living Colour, Pete Yorn, Elliott Smith, OMD, RHCP, Eels, Duran Duran, First Wave Hello, Astrud Gilberto, Anthrax, Jeff Lynne and ELO, Abba, Eisley, Midnight Oil, Beck, Lana Del Rey, Antonio Carlos Jobim, the Cardigans, Faith No More, Belly, Smashing Pumpkins, Olivia Newton-John, Brendan Benson, Delays, Dandy Warhols, Enya, Adiemus, Soundgarden, The Jayhawks, Robyn, Sia, Ken Andrews, Madonna, Nine Inch Nails, Shins, The Cult, Veruca Salt, Kool Keith, Bee Gees, DJ Z-Trip, DJ P, Prince, MF Doom, Keane, the Go-Go's, Keane, Coldplay, Slayer, Garbage, Mazzy Star, The Vines, etc ... and I'm ALWAYS up for a good "blend" (mashup, if you must call it that).

Favorite Movies

Better Off Dead, Back to the Future, Clerks, Pulp Fiction, Young Guns ... Cinderfella with Jerry Lewis ... most anything with Clint Eastwood, Mark Wahlberg, Brad Pitt and the like. I'm even into some older classics like "Seven Brides for Seven Brothers" and "Chitty Chitty Bang Bang" ...

I like comedy, but NOT a lot of "gross-out" humor (ie, the 40-Year-Old-Virgin? No thanks.) No horror movies, either ... depravity and blood and gore? No, thanks - my sense of empathy can’t handle it. I don't understand the type of people who enjoy that sort of thing.

I have a soft spot for Studio Ghibli anime ... I've watched almost all of them with my daughter and bought her the blu-rays ... we prefer English dubs because we both find it annoying to have to READ while you watch the show.

Favorite Television

I LOVE being able to "binge-watch" shows on DVD ... like Dexter, Bosch, Game of Thrones, Southland, Sons Of Anarchy, It's Always Sunny In Philadelphia, Justified, Veronica Mars, Yellowstone, Breaking Bad, Rescue Me, The Umbrella Academy, The Shield, Sopranos, Dead Like Me, Arrested Development, Kung Fu (with David Carradine), Animal Kingdom, Little House on the Prairie (still makes me cry EVERY time), Seinfeld, Downton Abbey (I will really miss that one) ...

Favorite Crafts

I used to LOVE doing the "mix-CD" swaps on here ... since they banned them, I RARELY come around ... maybe once or twice a year, and that's enough to remind me why I don't use this site much anymore. I'm not that "crafty" yet I sometimes see a swap that looks fun and decide to participate.

HOWEVER ... if I sign up for your swap, do me a favor and don't "freak out" if I haven't signed in to the site during the previous week (I've dealt with some rude, brutish swap coordinators that think they have to run their swap like some sort of iron-fisted dictator) ... IF I SIGNED UP FOR YOUR SWAP, THAT MEANS I AM COMMITTED. Anyone that would suspect me of being a "flake" without 'just cause' is not only being unfair, but insulting, and that really PISSES ME OFF. I mean, it doesn't matter, but I am an ORIGINAL MEMBER of this site, and that should count for something. My word is bond ... and if that isn't good enough for you, then F.U. because I don't want to be in your stupid swap anyway.

That said ... if you’re an easy-going, COOL swap coordinator, you can depend on me!

Likes / Dislikes

I'm one of those people that doesn't have a real strong preference on most things ... I'm easygoing and not very demanding. Of course, nothing religious ... I am fascinated by miniature things ... like, little things that would go in a fancy dollhouse, etc. Unusual or really cool stickers are always nice ... and I'm always down for snacks! I really do like the swaps where people talk about their life ... email stuff. Getting to know other people can be fun. Then again, every time I go to Costco I want to bring a bat and start swingin' ... LOL


debbiespoms rated for Email Music Game #9 on Jun 8, 2022
Comment: Thank you for the great music choices!
HexG rated for Email Music Game #9 on Jun 8, 2022
Comment: Thanks so much for your responses! In the nicest way possible.. I'm going to have to disagree, I much prefer the original version of As the world caves in lol The part where they sing "it's youuuuuuu" I just feel like Sarah's voice doesn't fluctuate the way Matt's does. Plus! I heard he wrote that song about his cat ;) Also, were you aware that Roundabout was a meme for a while? It was one of the funnier ones lmao so much that even Family Guy made a joke about it ~ Anyway, had a lot of fun reading your responses! Thanks again c:
sassafrass rated for Email Music Game #9 on Jun 8, 2022
Comment: Thank you for the awesome email! I love that you included a little story with each and why the song speaks to you. Your taste in music is pretty similar to mine :) Thanks for sharing!
myancey rated for Email Music Game #9 on Jun 8, 2022
Comment: Some songs I never heard of. I also loved the stories u shared. Do u still talk to Jamie?
dorcii rated for ABC Songs on May 29, 2022
Comment: Thanks for the songs :)
dorcii rated for Email Music Game #7 on May 29, 2022
Comment: Thanks for the songs, they were new for me :)
SatisHuman rated for Email Music Game #7 on May 26, 2022
Comment: I didn't recognize a lot of your music, some artists sound familiar, but none of the titles. Just gives me several new songs to explore!
SkaGirl rated for ABC Songs on May 20, 2022
Comment: Thank you! :) I have not heard any of those songs so now, I have some new stuff to listen to! :)
Foxtales rated for Email Music Game #7 on May 17, 2022
Comment: "If you could read my mind" is the only song in your list I know. I love it though's I think it's pretty cheesy. Thank you for all the songs!
Foxtales rated for ABC Songs on May 17, 2022
Comment: So many songs I don't know yet! But I was happy to see "Undertow2 in your list. ^^ I will sure check all of the songs out as soon as I can find the time. Thank you!
Foxtales rated for Email Music Game #6 on May 17, 2022
Comment: Thank you for the songs! I didn't know any of them. I'm surprised at how much I love "Roddy". Also, love your comments on each and every song. Thank you!
mysmashbooklife rated for Email Music Game #7 on May 15, 2022
myancey rated for Email Music Game #7 on May 15, 2022
Comment: Great answers and I haven’t thought of waltzing Matilda in a long time.
kelliegirl6 rated for Email Music Game #6 on May 2, 2022
Comment: Thanks for sharing! Sweet little personal memories!
mysmashbooklife rated for Email Music Game #6 on May 1, 2022
debbiespoms rated for Email Music Game #6 on May 1, 2022
Comment: Thanks very much Ryan, for all the songs you choose for me to view! I esp. loved ELO, Stray cats, Matchbox 20, Scorpians, and Soundgarden. Al these are my favorites! Love, love, love them very much!
myancey rated for Email Music Game #6 on Apr 30, 2022
Comment: Great list ! Anddddd sad to hear about Naomi today.
Comment: This has to be by far the BEST envelope I have EVER gotten! And I loved everything inside the envelope too! You killed me with Dexter tho...I loved that show! Wish I could give you 100 hearts...looking forward to swapping with you again!
Response: How flattering (such a nice thing to say)! I'm so glad you liked it, and if "craftygirl" keeps this theme going, you very well may see me again! Until then, take care!
Wandervogel rated for Email 40 questions - you help! on Aug 22, 2015
Comment: Thank you for your answers! Was interesting to read!
TammieM3ENF rated for Email 40 questions - you help! on Aug 19, 2015
Comment: Thank you for your lovely answers Ryan, it's really interesting to read about you! :)

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rumblegirl on May 6, 2009:

There you go again . . . going the extra mile and making me smile :)

Thanks for the extra tunes! I hope that you're wearing your "Mr. Fabulous" costume while you're rockin' out to new music. (Although you'll have to do a costume change when you switch back to The Cardigans. LOL)

ikw on Apr 22, 2009:

thanks for all the prince songs!

crescendo on Mar 14, 2009:

Wow, thanks a lot for the extra songs for Hear This #3 and I wasn't even one of your partners! I really like these songs! Too bad that band broke up.

ikw on Mar 11, 2009:

hey ryan! thanks for the new wave hello songs for hear this #3! they sound fun!

sylviamay on Oct 16, 2008:

Thankyou!. This mix was awesome!

SadTomato on Oct 7, 2008:

thanks for the mix cd! i went to rate you for the scavenger hunt and you aren't even one of my partners, so extra thanks :) it rocks!


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