One of the biggest revelations about love - you cannot make a person happy.
You can make a person smile, you can make a person feel good, you can make a person laugh. But whether or not a person is happy is deeply and totally and utterly out of your control.
I remember the day i retired. I retired from trying to make you happy. I need you to go make yourself happy and just prove to me that it's even possible. We came into this false romantic concept that somehow when we got married that we would become one.
And what we realized is that we were two completely separate people on two complete separate individual journeys and that we were choosing to walk our separate individual journeys together.
But her happiness was her responsibility, and my happiness was my responsibility. And we decided that we were going to find our individual, internal, private, separate joy and then we are going to present ourselves to the relationship and to each other already happy. Not coming to each other begging with our empty cups out, demanding that the other fill our cup, and demanding that the other meet our needs.
It is unfair, unrealistic, and can ve destructive to place the responsibility for your happiness on anybody other than yourself.
I am an Indonesian-Chinese female (not a girl, not yet a woman) who grew up in Singapore, and travelled around the world for my studies.
My educational trip alone had brought me to Singapore (obviously), Germany-France-Italy-Netherlands (Europe), Ningbo-Hangzhou-Guangzhou-Shanghai (China), Wollongong-Sydney-Canberra-Gold Coast (Australia).
My goals for 2018 is to travel to all major cities of Indonesia. So far I have only been to Bali, Bandung, Banjarmasin, Belitung, Jakarta (where i reside) Medan, Pontianak, Semarang, Solo, Surabaya, & Yogyakarta.
My favourite flowers are Peony/-ies and Tulips. Fave colours are Black-Pink together, or red by itself
I don't like snakes. Please don't send me pictures of realistic snakes. I don't mind abstract which is just a swiggly line or blured colours. I can withstand a cartoon snake. NO REAL SNAKES, please. 😨😢
I have 2 RES (Red Eared Slider) and they love to escape their outdoor habitat to dip into my swimming pool, or the gutter right in front of my house.
Have been trying more ways to increase the "security" of their gated outdoor habitat, but every year, they find a loophole.
I have had them since they were a tiny little thing. I initially bought 5 of them, but only 2 survived after the first year or so. And now, they will be 5 years old this September 2018.
And my baby Peter (RIP), an applehead chihuahua
The TV series i am currently watching & loving are:
Hawaii Five-0 (Season 8)
S.W.A.T (Season 1)
NCIS:LA (Season 9)
Criminal Minds (Season 13)
Taken (Season 2)
MacGyver (Season 2)
Deception (Season 1)
Ransom (Season 2)
The Good Fight (Season 2)
Bull (Season 2)
For The People (Season 1)
Grey's Anatomy (Season 14)
Chicago Med (Season 3)
The Resident (Season 1)
Chicago Fire (Season 6)
Station 19 (Season 1)
The Big Bang Theory (Season 11)
The Stitchers (Season 3)
I have watched all of them since Season 1. Should you have any good TV Shows that are not far along (maybe still in 2nd season), do recommend and i will gladly watch in from S1E01. hehehe.
Turtles All the Way Down - John Green ***
The Hate U Give - Angie Thomas ***
We Are Okay - Nina LaCour *****
The Bear and the Nightingale - Katherine Arden ******
The Girl in the Tower - Katherine Arden ****
Letters to the Lost - Brugud Kemmerer ****
Eleanor Oliphant is Completely Fine - Gail Honeyman ***
Worlds Collide (The Land of Stories #6) - Chris Colfer *****
9.📚 许我向你看 - 辛夷坞 📚
The Arrangement - Sarah Dunn ***
The Assassin and the Pirate Lord (Throne of Glass 0.1) - Sarah J. Maas *****
The Assassin and the Healer (Throne of Glass 0.2) - Sarah J. Maas *****
The Assassin and the Desert (Throne of Glass 0.3) - Sarah J. Maas *****
The Assassin and the Underworld (Throne of Glass 0.4) - Sarah J. Maas *****
The Assassin and the Empire (Throne of Glass 0.5) - Sarah J. Maas *****
Bite - Laurell K. Hamilton ***
❌One Hundred Years of Solitude - Gabriel García Márquez❌ **
Hannah Green and her Unfeasibly Mundane Existence - Michael Marshall Smith ****
Dragon’s Green (Worldquake #1) - Scarlett Thomas *****
The Emerald Circus - Jane Yolen ***
Green (Clashing Colors #3) - Elin Peer *****
Love, Luck, and Little Green Men - Diane Kelly *****
Jade City (The Green Bone Saga #1) - Fonda Lee ****
The Butterfly Collector - Beth Yarnall *****
The End We Start From - Megan Hunter ***
❌ Honeymoon With My Brother: A Memoir - Franz Wisner ❌ **
Sad Girls - Lang Leav ****
📚 The Right Girl - Ellie O’Neill 📚
Mothers of Sparta - Dawn Davies ***
A Nice Murder for Mom (Mom #1) - James Yaffe *****
Mom Meets Her Maker (Mom #2) - James Yaffe *****
Mom doth Murder Sleep (Mom #3) - James Yaffe ****
Mom among the Liars (Mom #4) - James Yaffe ****
The Hazel Wood - Melissa Albert ***
The Family Next Door - Sally Hepworth *****
The Break - Marian Keyes *****
Dearest Mother of Mine (Overworld Chronicles #6) - John Corwin ****
Openly Straight - Bill Konigsberg ****
Openly Honestly (Openly Straight #1.5) - Bill Konigsberg ***
Tower of Dawn (Throne of Glass #6) - Sarah J Maas *****
Tiger's Dream (The Tiger Saga #5) - Colleen Houck ****
Honeybee - Trista Mateer ***
Infernal Father of Mine (Overworld Chronicles #7) - John Corwin *****
Honestly Ben (Openly Straight #2) - Bill Konigsberg
The Greatest Showman
Insidious: The Last Key
Maze Runner: The Death Cure
Dilan 1990 (Indonesian movie)
Benyamin Si Biangkerok (Indonesian movie)
Sekala Niskala (Indonesian movie)
Love For Sale (Indonesian movie)
A Wrinkle In Time
Pacific Rim Uprising
Ready Player One
A Quiet Place
The Shape Of Water
Terbang: Menembus Langit (Indonesian movie)
Avengers: Infinity War
Acts of Violence
Truth or Dare
Solo: A Star Wars Story
Acts of Vengence
The Gift (Indonesian movie)
The Midnight Man
The Incredibles 2
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