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renaemarie

renaemarie
Date Joined: November 14, 2007
Last Online: August 27, 2016
Birthday: May 27, 1967
Country: United States
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About Me

UPDATE:
August, 2008 I have just recovered from a serious failure to get my stuff out on time. Apparently I'm not good at staying on top of my swaps in the summer months. I believe everything has gone out and I'm grateful to all of my generous partners who didn't give me the 3's I so richly deserved.

I'll be keeping my swap list spare so that I don't get into trouble again ... at least until autumn :)

Update:
April, 2008
I've created the community 'Dark Hearted' which has been a great success. If you have darker sensibilities, feel free to check us out.

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Now, back to your regularly scheduled profile.

Profile Mostly Written November, 2007 (tweaked frequently)

I have a long profile because I love to read detailed biographies of others. When it comes to swapping, the more details I have to work with, the more likely it is I will be happy and excited about what I send out.

If you are in a hurry, skip to the following sections: Sensuism and Likes & Dislikes. If you want a hint about what you might get from me, check out Likes & Dislikes, Hobbies and Swap Status.


Throughout this bio, you may see this: (see link). I have provided these links at the top of my profile, just under 'last login'.


BASIC BIO:

I live on a little parcel of land in Minnesota, USA that could be a functioning hobby farm.

It's not.

Instead, I run a retirement home for strangely intelligent, old chickens and 3 pampered, neutered cats. (There's a dog, two cockatiels, a rabbit and a gerbil too.) On the side, I annually plan & plant gardens while dreaming of succulent tomatoes and cucumbers and peppers. (Oh my.) So far my efforts have only succeeded in making the local deer and gophers portly.

I am head over heels in love with my husband of 16 years ... most of the time. My 21 year old daughter recently returned to our nest, after a couple of years on her own. I personally teach my 12 year old son, via an online academy.

I am an aspiring writer. I started taking myself seriously a few years ago. In this last year, I've actually started putting my butt in the chair and churning out words.

I am a caring, responsible person with a wide dark-gothic-Victorian-spooky streak. I can be funny, but I don't do cute very well. I appreciate heartfelt gestures in all forms. It's most important to me to feel heard. It's next-most-important to me to feel appreciated. (Not flattered ... just acknowledged for whatever it is that I do well.)

My Beliefs

After many years of incessant soul-searching, I've pretty much figured out what is important to me.

My children, my husband, my friends and my community are, of course, central to my world.

I am a spiritual, witchy Catholic. Sometimes I'm a skeptical, Catholic-y witch. Many people think that is a contradiction in terms but I live with it just fine. I adore the ritual and beauty of the Church. I feel closest to God outdoors. I think most religions are both good and bad. I believe in the power of prayer and spellwork.

Please don't try to convert me.

While keeping the needs of my people and my spirituality in mind, I try to build my life around four guiding principles. Each of my priorities tangles with the next, but I try to live a life that revolves around:

~ Sensuism ~ Writerliness ~ Learning ~ Sustainability ~

Sensuism

I have a natural affinity for guilt. I have spent at least 20 years of my life feeling bad about being too dreamy, dramatic, hedonistic, lazy, intellectual ... you name it.

I'm over it.

This is where my witchy-spirituality comes in: An it harm none, do what ye will.

I love cooking, scented oils, daydreaming, writing, cocktails, giving lavish compliments, eating, varied textures, journaling, romance, sleeping, being naked in the moonlight, deeply honest friendships & pleasantly light acquaintanceships, candlelight, bath potions, fire rings ... all that fabulous stuff.


TMI SECTION: I have been blessed and cursed with an early menopause. I'm smack in the middle of my change of life -- complete with hot flashes, mood swings and the rest. Tips and tricks and comfort items would be much appreciated.

Some sensuAL keywords: Bettie Page, Tantric, intricate knots, Smitten Kitten, pinups, honey dust ...


FYI: 'sensuism' is a made-up word based on the following definition --

Main Entry: SENSUOUS
Part of Speech: ADJECTIVE
Definition: GRATIFYING
... Notes: sensuous usually implies gratification of the senses for the sake of aesthetic pleasure; sensuAL usually describes gratification of the senses or physical appetites as an end in itself

Source: Roget's New Millenniumâ„¢ Thesaurus, First Edition (v 1.3.1)

Writerliness

Who knows if I'll ever publish? It could happen. I could become fabulously wealthy and notorious. Or not.

In the meantime, I want to enjoy BEING a writer.

I spend a lot of time building an environment that fosters creativity. (Not only for myself, but for my family as well.)

We reject a lot of "shoulds". Our house is a little ramshackle, and we mostly like it that way.

We actively pursue fresh thoughts, visions and ideas through reading, making friends, writing and learning. We give equal importance to necessary tasks and creative projects.


By the way, I write supernatural horror -- NOT mystery, splatter-punk, true-crime, vampire-serials or serial-killer books. (My current, primary project is a novel.)

My husband plays harmonica and sings in a cover band. He also writes a little, and messes around with photography. (Meanwhile, he supports us all with his job as a programmer.) My daughter, 21, can sing, draw, write and act. (She is a full-time college student.) My son, 12, plays the flute, studies karate and writes ... sometimes reluctantly. (He's still finding new skills and interests nearly daily.)

FEEL FREE TO SEND AN ITEM TO ONE OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS INSTEAD OF TO ME.

Learning

When one stops learning, one starts dying.

I teach my son at home because I believe in a true liberal arts education. Our goal is to provide a 'classical education'. (see link)


THINGS I'D LIKE TO LEARN ABOUT NEXT: Bodhran drumming, Latin, WW II-era pop culture, womens history, bluegrass music, Old Hollywood, singing, Italian, herbology, historical connections, literary relationships, ballroom & swing dancing, art and artistic styles ...

Sustainability

I buy and use as many organic, natural and cruelty-free products as I can. I prefer to shop at natural food stores and local businesses.

Though we can't afford to buy organic versions of everything we need to keep a family of four going, we have agreed to patronize principled providers for our luxurious purchases. (Chocolates, coffee, tea, candles, cosmetics, bath products, yarns, etc. We are also converting our dairy and meat purchases to natural and cruelty-free.)

Likes & Dislikes

I have no allergies. I DO -- very much -- prefer to use the most natural version of "stuff" that is available. If you are shopping for me, think natural, cruelty-free, free range, recyclable, fair-trade, non-toxic, biodegradable, "green", etc.

When gathering items for a swap I will accommodate YOUR preferences, as expressed in your profile, while still following my heart. Please remember that organic products can be more expensive than 'normal' stuff. For the price of several Walmart pillar candles, I can buy one good soy candle.


My charity of choice is Heifer International. (see link)

Donate under my name. Donate on behalf of others. Donate in your own name. 'Doesn't matter. If you DO send them money because of my profile, just drop me a note. It will make my day.

Note for vegetarians: Heifer International also provides gifts of honey bees, trees and certain crops.


I have fallen in love with ATCs. I cherish my small but growing collection.

PRETTIES:
beach glass, soy candles, polished stones, beeswax things, handmade paper items, prayer beads, loose incense, prayer cards, agates, naturally fallen feathers, crystal prisms, parchment, natural yarns, small stoppered bottles, handwritten letters, goddess figurines, folded origami, quilling, carvings, beadwork, sheer ribbons, unusual or beautiful paper, b&w movie-star-type photos, sterling charms, windchimes, stained glass ...

CREEPIES: (In a good way.)
gargoyles, gravestone rubbings, tarot cards & tarot images, thunderstorms, ghost photos, all things Halloween, witchballs, dark fae, St. Elmo's Fire, spiritualism images, hex signs, first-hand accounts of paranormal experiences, monsters, will-o-wisps ...

SCENTS: (see BPAL link for more ideas)
freesia, rose, sandalwood, amber, citrus, herbal, spicy ... NOT lily, gardenia, strong hot-house florals or synthetic scents.

FLAVORS:
fresh-baked bread, cranberries, dark roast (fair trade) coffee, milk chocolate, Irish cream, licorice, menthol, raspberries, caramel, dark chocolate, toffee, butter rum, honey, tea (black, white & green), blueberries, cream, nectarines, lager, Earl Grey, herbes de provence, good cheeses ...

COOL CRITTERS:
raptors, cats, chickadees, flying squirrels, crows, chickens, frogs, dragonflies, toads, field mice, deer, wild turkeys, fireflies, red squirrels ...

COLORS:
jewel tones, earth tones, greens, black, mocha, cream, autumn shades of orange, gold & yellow ...

MATERIALS:
sheers, glass, silks, copper, velvets, stone, chenille, denim, cotton, satin, glazed pottery, soft laces, polished wood, silver, tapestry ...

WORDS:
quotes, old-fashioned typewriter fonts, serious riddles, correspondences (real or imagined), story poems ...

POST CARDS:
Consider sending a postcard to my son. His name is Ricky. (He's 12.) Most of his likes and dislikes mirror mine. He's keen to collect location information cards in particular.

Hobbies

I'm a veteran of hobby / crafting mania. After years of dabbling, I've figured out what I really like to do.

ARTIST TRADING CARDS: I don't do much completely original art. (Drawing, painting, etc.) My ATCs often feature words, passages and silhouettes. I like to work with sheer layers and often create cards that can be manipulated to reveal more detail.

HAUNTED DOLL HOUSE:
Recently, I put together a 43Things list (see link). On a whim I noted a long-held, mostly secret, goal -- to make a haunted doll house. (1" to 1' scale -- the typical doll house scale) Now I've really got the idea stuck in my head.

If anyone has spare antique-style, BROKEN or decrepit-looking miniatures, I would sure love to start collecting them! Tiny, creepy works of art would be wonderful too. Or little aged linens ... or -- you get the idea.

KNITTING:
Simple, small projects are best. (Handwarmers, teddy bears, scarves, the occasional blanket, etc.) I love my circular needles. I ADORE beautiful, natural fiber yarns!

COOKING:
Mediterranean, mostly, but Asian too. I want to master bread making. I love indulgent foods and good cooking equipment.

FAN LETTERS:
I like to write to new and established authors to give them encouragement or praise. Sometimes they write back. Which is incredibly cool.

BIRDING / NATURE WATCHING / PHENOLOGY:
We keep an active feeding station up year round. Most of my previous volunteering experiences have been animal related.

LIVE JOURNAL:
After stepping away for many months, to establish better fiction writing habits, I've returned to LJ. (see link)


I'D LIKE TO NEXT EXPLORE: BPAL (see link), digital photography, coordinating swaps, making scented bath & beauty potions, beading ...

Entertainments

READING: I own and have read everything by Stephen King. I have too many books in general but I can't seem to give them up.

Some titles I've loved: To Kill A Mockingbird, IT, The Time Traveler's Wife, The Stand, Swan Song, Practical Magic, Heart Shaped Box (Joe Hill)...


MUSIC: Lyrics draw me in more than the music itself, I love 'singers & songwriters' stuff and songs that affect my mood. I create playlists to match what I want to do or how I want to feel. (Fast and pop-y for housecleaning; slow and retro for musing.)

That said, I AM particularly vulnerable to Celtic rhythms, bluegrass harmonies and the melodies of the standards.

Some frequently played artists: Etta James, Meatloaf, Van Morrison, Bill Withers, Billy Joel, Cher, Elton John, Evanescence, Alison Krauss, Jason Mraz, k.d. lang, Sarah Vaughan, Frank Sinatra ...

RECORDINGS OF YOUR MUSICAL PERFORMANCES WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED.


TELEVISION: I'm addicted to TV...at least in theory. I am, after all, of the first generation to be raised by PBS :)

SOME of my favorite shows: CSI, Bones, Criminal Minds, Medium, Moonlight, Supernatural Science, Biography, City Confidential, Good Eats, Survivor ...


MOVIES: You can chase me a mile with a stupid comedy. (I hate jokes based on bodily functions. And most romantic comedies make me crabby.) The best comedies are old -- classic films with James Stewart, Katherine Hepburn, Cary Grant or Danny Kaye.

I treasure the few modern comedies that have hit me in the right spot: A Fish Called Wanda, The Ref, The War of the Roses, The Princess Bride, Little Shop of Horrors ...

Oddly, I don't love many horror movies. Most are too gory. Some are creepy enough that I'll tolerate the nastiness though: Halloween, 28 Days, The Others, The Ring, The Sixth Sense ...

... and, of course, I love the classics like Frankenstein, Psycho and Night of the Hunter.

Mostly I love good dramas and quirky pieces:
Chocolat, 12 Angry Men, Dangerous Liaisons, Capote, Bull Durham, most Hitchcock ...

PERSONALIZED MOVIE RECOMMENDATIONS WOULD BE MUCH APPRECIATED!!

On Swapping ...

I don't generally start working on a swap until I have been assigned partners -- I like to work from profiles.

I often check my email and personal messages from my cell phone. Typing a response on the thing, however, sucks. If you have sent me a message and I haven't responded even though it shows as read, I'm just waiting until I get to a real keyboard.

RM
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Ratings

BlackDiamond rated for INTL- The World Through My Eyes on Dec 20, 2008
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chelle523 rated for PEOPLE WATCHING 102 on Sep 28, 2008
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SallySparrow rated for Same Image ATCs on Sep 16, 2008
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Comment: I am sorry but I have not received either the original two ATCs or the replacement two you sent. Don't understand why. If either eventually arrive - I will upgrade to a 3.
tiaragoth rated for Dark Beneficence #1 [EDITED] on Aug 15, 2008
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Comment: Thanks so much for all the wonderful goodies Renae. What a great package! It really made my day : ) I absolutey adore everything you sent and can tell you put alot of thought into it. I feel very lucky that you were my swap partner.
Response: I really enjoyed the process. At first I was freaked out because I couldn't fall back on my old standards, but your profile was inspiring and I liked how it all came out too. And thanks for not giving me the 3 I deserved :)
kizmet rated for Hanging Halloween on Aug 13, 2008
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Comment: Renaeeee the package you sent me was wow..I have no words to dscribe it..I love the variety of things you sent me and I will start decorate my room already today! Unluckily the glass frame didn't make it =/ but it won't be hard to find a glass to replace it. Thanks from the bottom of my heart! I hope to swap with you again!
Response: I'm so sorry the glass broke! I had some trouble finding an envelope big enough for the package -- next time I'll just bite the bullet and use a box. I'm glad you liked everything else and I hope the glass replacement goes easily.
aladyde rated for Same Image ATCs on Aug 7, 2008
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Comment: It was the third time we traded and every letter from Renae is filled with wonderful ATCs and goodies. Thank you sooooo much.
inventacharm rated for What are you afraid of? - ATCs on Jul 22, 2008
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Comment: very creepy and nicely done. your whole package was very cool. thanks for the candy!
EmperorFool rated for Summer Solstice ATCs on Jul 15, 2008
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Comment: An absolutely lovely ATC--thank you! And thank you also for all the extras; I'll have fun with those. :-)
rebeccaljames rated for Dark/Gothic Stuffies on Jul 11, 2008
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Comment: Thank you!
bobilani rated for What are you afraid of? - ATCs on Jul 10, 2008
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Comment: Thank you so much for the awesome package you sent!! I love your ATC's - very creepy, especially the zombie one. It gave me goosebumps!! Great job! And you went above and beyond for extras! I love everything you sent - and my daughter is trying to steal my fun dip!! I love that stuff :) Thanks again for everything!!
cobaltgypsy rated for Summer Solstice ATCs on Jul 10, 2008
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Comment: Wow! Well worth the wait--I love your card--the use of vellum is gorgeous! And I like that it is double sided too! Thanks so much for the chai, choco sunflower seeds and the beautiful African woman fabric! Thank you so much! And the note was nice too---and nope, we've never swapped before now! :) blessings, Gypsy
leahsimone rated for Ghost Stories from Your Area on Jul 10, 2008
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Comment: Thank you so much for the package! The book looks great, and the extras are so perfect for me, and very generous!
aladyde rated for Summer Solstice ATCs on Jul 3, 2008
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Comment: Wonderful ATCs. Thank you sooooo much. I love the tea.
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Comment: Thanks so much for the list and extras! I found many shared points in your list and luckily, my husband fills most of mine too :)
QueenBof3 rated for Boys boys boys on Jun 11, 2008
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Comment: IF WE GIVE MORE THAN ONE HEART THEN WE WOULD 100 XS. THE PACKAGE WAS GREAT, HERE ARE C.J. WORDS" THANK YOU SO MUCH I LOVE THE SWORD AND THE BOOK, I CAN,T FORGET THE KITE, TRADING CARDS, CANDY(WHICH IS YUMMY), THE LITTLE SLAYER GUYS, AND EVERYTHING I NEED TO MAKE MY OWN SWORD." THANKS C.J. THANK YOU SO MUCH MY SON IS ENJOYING EVERYTHING SO MUCH, I CAN'T TELL YOU HOW MUCH I THANK YOU FOR A WONDERFUL PACKAGE. THANKS,THANKS,THANKS LESLIE&SON
Jeanb217 rated for Uniquely Me on Jun 10, 2008
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Comment: Renae sent a great list! She had details. I have such a good time reading her list that I plan to keep it & read it several times over. We have a lot in common. Also, Renae, thanks for the candy. Believe it or not, it's one of my favs. I eat it at the movies. My grandkids will love the paper. I'm so glad you were one of my partners.
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Comment: I loved everything...especially the marshmellow toasters, and the apron, and the candy, and the plasticware...and I already have the ice cream cone on display!!! THANKS XO
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Comment: Thanks for the great list :0)
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Comment: Unbelievable ...absolutely Unbelievable ..I have been making atc's for about 3 years and I have never seen anything even come close to your atc package..How on earth did you come up with such a clever ideal and my Dear what a talent to make it all into a great work of art..I have never been so impressed by someone's work as much as I am by yours...Talk about a great addition to my collection, this is it...Looking at your atc and the way you presented it I forgot all about the great extras which I Thank you for too..There is just no way that one heart equals what this package should get..But it's all Swap-Bot will allow...So I give you my biggest Thank You with a heart
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Comment: Yay! I love your list... you and your hubby remind me of me and mine :) And I love the little extras, too - the whole package smelled lovely!

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Comments

SallySparrow on Aug 5, 2008:

Looking forward to receiving my ATCs having read your feedbacks and profile. I am wondering how creepy they will be! (Same Image Swap)

storylaura on Jul 12, 2008:

Finally, a new group swap in So You Want to be a Writer. Check it out! Sign up closes on July 19.

RogueArtist on Jul 3, 2008:

Hello!

We haven't seen you around the forums lately. Be sure and check in with us at the Wild Women group forum soon! We've got lots happening and would love to see you there

thanks

raven on Jun 10, 2008:

I just can't say enough about how good I think your work is...And I can't even began to Thank you enough....These pictures are not even close to just how good it really is..But Thank you again anyway

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cobaltgypsy on Jun 9, 2008:

Hi! I noticed that you've not marked your Summer Solstice ATCs sent yet----they were supposed to be sent by June 7th, so I'm hoping you have already sent them and just forgot to mark the swap. :) blessings, Gypsy

bean on May 6, 2008:

thanks for the encouragement, I posted the patio swap! <3

http://www.swap-bot.com/swap/show/15453

agonysdecay on Apr 25, 2008:

I just wanted to express my absolute thanks for such a great package from you!! I love your versions of the black and white with a lil bit of red ATCs, you really did a great job on them! I like how you try different things, its rad! I am proud to have each one of your ATCs in my collection!! Also,where did you find such spook-tacular transparent gothy type envelopes? I want to get those! The tea and chocolates are always welcomed, I've never had organic chocolate before ;) Lol, I loved the description you had about the book!! I like erotica, all forms, so no worries! I look foward to reading it, no matter what! Thanks for sharing it with me!!! You have great stationary and very beautiful handwriting ;) Thanks so much again for your effort and you did a great job for your first angelling attempt! I wish I could give ya 100's of hearts!! Thanks again doll!

thatzghetto on Apr 22, 2008:

I'm glad it reached you safely. I found out that you were flaked while I was arranging angels for all of gummmie's swaps. Most of them were ATC's and I can't make those so I picked the postcard one to do. :)

lilsayermonster on Apr 16, 2008:

We have our first swap! Summer minis swap

Rockdiva24 on Apr 11, 2008:

Thanks so much for joining the Dark/Gothic Stuffies swap!!! Think its gonna be a fun one!

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